A Guided Journey for Men and Women Out Of Unwanted Sexual Behavior.

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    Spread over five months, with nearly 10 hours of video content, in-depth assignments, readings, and resources to help you understand your story based on unparalleled research of nearly 4,000 men and women.

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Listen to Your Lust

Jay Stringer is a licensed mental health counselor and ordained minister. For the last decade Jay been working on the frontlines of sexual brokenness including the demand for pornography and sexual exploitation. His book Unwanted provides this series with original, groundbreaking research into unwanted sexual behavior and the path to healing.

What People are Saying
Dan B. Allender Ph.D.  |  Author, Healing the Wounded Heart

Unwanted is, without rival, the best book on broken sexuality I have ever read.

Dan B. Allender Ph.D. | Author, Healing the Wounded Heart

Danielle Strickland  |  Author, The Ultimate Exodus

This book is a weapon for freedom and flourishing in a world bombarded with sexual pain and brokenness.

Danielle Strickland | Author, The Ultimate Exodus

Shannon Ethridge, M.A.  |  Author, Every Woman’s Battle

If you’re hungry for deep healing, or searching for practical ways to help others heal from unhealthy emotional entanglements and sexual dysfunction, Unwanted will be an incredibly sharp tool in your tool belt!

Shannon Ethridge, M.A. | Author, Every Woman’s Battle

Jason Pamer  |  Writer and Producer on The Heart of Man

Jay’s book is the most impactful treatise I’ve ever read on how to understand that our pain and brokenness is actually a pathway to full healing and restoration. If we want to dismantle the forces that seek to ruin the beauty of sex, this book will be our roadmap.

Jason Pamer | Writer and Producer on The Heart of Man

Dr. Bruce McNicol  |  Trueface, President Co-Author, The Cure

Jay Stringer invites you to know your story and dare to believe that you will be loved more, not less by what it reveals. The culture, including the church, has needed this book for decades. Thousands will experience God’s kindness and healing through it.”

Dr. Bruce McNicol | Trueface, President Co-Author, The Cure

Josh McDowell  |  Author and Speaker

Unwanted changes the conversation on sexual brokenness for this generation of believers. Jay Stringer engages the “why” beneath our sexual shame with groundbreaking research and the wisdom of a counselor.

Josh McDowell | Author and Speaker

James Anderson  |  President, CEO New Canaan Society

Sexual brokenness is the most significant and under addressed topic affecting men today. Jay’s work opens the door to a new conversation for all of us who need language to talk about it more transparently. Unwanted is going to lead you to an understanding of your life that can guide you to freedom.

James Anderson | President, CEO New Canaan Society

William Struthers Ph.D.  |   Author, Wired for Intimacy

A thorough theoretical framework and nuanced vocabulary are critical tools when dealing with unwanted sexual desires, thoughts, attitudes and behaviors. In Unwanted, Jay Stringer provides not just a set of tools to understand these matters, but offers a story and vision for those who find themselves in dark places.

William Struthers Ph.D. | Author, Wired for Intimacy

Christopher West  |  Author, Fill These Hearts: God, Sex, & the Universal Longing

Unwanted enters the heartache of sexual brokenness and reveals the deepest longings within us for redemption. Through groundbreaking research and a heart for the Gospel, Stringer invites us to the critical task of finding hope and meaning within our sexual lives.

Christopher West | Author, Fill These Hearts: God, Sex, & the Universal Longing

Dr. Juli Slattery  |  Author, Rethinking Sexuality

Unwanted is a courageous and insightful work. This book will undoubtedly equip many on the journey to freedom.

Dr. Juli Slattery | Author, Rethinking Sexuality

  • Over the next 4-5 months, through 18 unique episodes, you will discover how your sexual brokenness formed, why it’s been so difficult to get out, and discover your unique path to freedom.

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  • Most approaches to sexual integrity involve accountability and lust management, but these approaches often fail to guide you to the freedom you desire. We believe there is another approach.

    Why this series?

    Journey Into The Heart of Man is rooted in clinical research and biblical wisdom to guide you to engage your sexual life with kindness and curiosity. The particulars of your sexual brokenness actually reveal unique clues into the unaddressed and therefore unresolved stories of our life.

    Whether you’re here for yourself or for someone important to you, we’re confident this series will equip you in a way you’ve not been equipped before to find freedom from unwanted sexual behavior, be that the use of pornography, infidelity, or buying sex. We hope you discover through this series that God is not ashamed of your sexual brokenness, but understands it to be the very stage through which the work of redemption could be played out in your life. We’d be honored to have you join us.

    What you'll get:

    • Unlimited lifetime access to all 18 episodes via your own login account and private password

    • The comprehensive Unwanted Sexual Behavior Assessment tool and custom feedback report pinpointing your unique struggles and potential directions to pursue freedom.

    • A Leader’s facilitator guide for groups

    • 4-5 months of in-depth assignments, readings, and resources to apply the concepts in the series to your own story

    • Exclusive access to the Journey into the Heart of Man Private Facebook Group where fellow participants will engage in safe discussions and post questions, and where Jay Stringer will periodically engage in conversation and Facebook live videos

    • Advanced previews of Jay’s writing and research

    • Upon completion of the series, VIP access and pricing to upcoming intensives and conferences, and a 3-session exclusive 1x1 “action planning” series with Jay

    Why this series?
  • This series blends the cutting edge research of the book Unwanted with the dual-genre impact of the feature film "The Heart of Man" into a unique journey for those struggling with unwanted sexual behavior.

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Episode Breakdown

  • Introduction: Welcome to the Journey

    This episode will give you a brief tour of the journey and why it’s structured the way it is. You will learn how to make the most of your time with this material, plan your journey, and clarify your goals, in order to set yourself up well to pursue the freedom you desire.

  • Wholeness and Sexuality

    At the height of our sexual brokenness, we often conclude that all God wants from us is to just stop misbehaving. This episode shows that God wants something much more beautiful and dynamic than we could ever imagine. God wants to shower our life with wholeness – delight, belonging, and justice.

  • Engaging Your Story with Honor & Honesty

    The families and communities we grew up in profoundly shaped us. This episode will explore how to honor those we love while also being honest about the heartache they introduced to our life. The ability engage our story with honor and honesty is central to all future growth.

  • Evil

    We tend to think too much or too little about the role of evil in our lives. This episode suggests that as image bearers of God, evil intentionally plots against our sexuality. Learning to recognize the harm of evil and co-creating a new sexual story with God is central to our healing journey.

  • Family Systems

    While there are many systems that impact our sexual brokenness, our families are one of the most foundational. The seeds of unwanted sexual behavior are often planted in rigid and/or disengaged family systems. This episode will help you identify the unique heartache of your family and its connection to your current unwanted sexual behavior.

  • Triangulation

    Triangulation occurs when there is a breakdown in a marriage and a child is brought in to play a role that compensates for that breakdown. This episode shows how some parents become too close to their children, leading to unhealthy outcomes. Addressing triangulation present in your story will guide you to the emotional freedom you desire in your day-to-day and romantic life.

  • Sexual Abuse

    The spectrum of abuse spans a wide range of traumatic experiences, from the introduction to pornography by a peer, all the way to those who have endured repeated and horrific harm. This episode will prepare you to engage the holistic impact of trauma – body, mind, and heart – and the ways that your present sexual brokenness may be an attempt to re-enact or reverse your childhood trauma or abuse.

  • Listening to Your Lust (Part 1)

    If we are willing to listen, our sexual brokenness has so much to teach us. This episode will invite you the critical task of making meaning of your unwanted sexual behavior. You might be surprised to learn how your unwanted sexual behavior may actually be revealing specific clues about why you make the choices that you do.

  • Listening to Your Lust (Part 2)

    This episode will continue our exploration about what our sexual fantasies might be saying about us. Rather than trying to militantly fight sexual brokenness, you will be invited to listen to the very precise messages your lust is sending about the origins of your unwanted sexual behavior.

  • Deprivation & Dissociation

    Although we desire freedom from unwanted sexual behavior, it is critical that we understand what experiences keep us bound to it. This episode will help you identify areas that you deprive yourself of, such as rest and beauty. When deprived of important emotional and physical needs, we begin to lean on unwanted sexual behavior as a counterfeit form of the real need.

  • Futility

    Whether it’s a lack of purpose in life, an inability to make a desired change in our marriage or unwanted sexual behavior, futility can corner each of us. This episode will guide you to identify and transform the reasons why unwanted sexual behavior is appealing to you in the midst of the difficulties in your life.

  • Lust & Anger

    To be sure, lust is one of the primary drivers of sexual brokenness. But in our focus in lust, we’ve lost sight of another interrelated factor: anger. This episode will guide you to see the high interdependence of lust and anger, therefore preparing you to aim your recovery efforts at their partnership.

  • Resignation, Perversion and Degradation: Three Hijackers of Our Soul

    Resignation, perversion and degradation impact each of our lives the longer we remain in unwanted sexual behavior. This episode will invite you to name the forms of denial and self-deception that weaken your conviction to change. Although seeing these areas of our life is often accompanied with shame, facing the truth of our choices helps set us free.

  • Shame: Disarming Its Paralyzing Power

    Shame is the painful feeling that we are unwanted and unworthy of love. While it may be intuitive to understand that shame is a feeling that results from indulging in unwanted sexual behavior, this episode will also show you that it is something that also drives you to it. In learning to be vulnerable with our sexual story, we see that our sexual shame is not a barrier, but a bridge to love.

  • Self-Care

    Recovery isn’t about trying to pull weeds for the rest of your life. It’s about planting a beautiful garden whose fruits you and many others will enjoy. This episode will guide you to develop self-care through pursuing daily delight and filling your life with activities and people that awaken gratitude.

  • Healthy Relationships

    Although unwanted sexual behavior may have led to hiding and conflict with those closest to you, sexual brokenness can actually invite you to a new and vibrant relational life. This episode will show you how vulnerability and mutuality can become the foundation of your most significant relationships.

  • Transformative Community

    The most profound form of community is not just having others see us at our worst moments, but allowing our lives to be fully shaped by those closest to us, and to participate in shaping theirs. This episode will guide you to see community as a source of structure and accountability, an invitation to develop empathy, and finally, a context to discover a deep sense of purpose.

  • Conclusion

    Like any good story, some of the chapters ahead will be painful and some will be glorious. This episode will invite you to ponder where you want to go with this one, beautiful life you’ve been given.